Wantedness

​It is a new(ish) word that taps into an ancient, almost genetic need.
It is simply put the desire to be wanted.

Being wanted surpasses being needed.
Being wanted goes beyond being useful.
Being wanted doesn't mean you have to be talented enough, skilled enough, smart enough, attractive enough, or witty enough to fit in.

Being wanted is the desire that someone else has for us to be around without needing us to be useful to them.
Being wanted doesn't mean we can't be needed or useful.
But being wanted does mean that the desire to have us around isn't conditioned upon need, usefulness, talent, skill, intelligent, aesthetic, wit, or whatever we believe we must be to fit in.

It feels good to feel wanted.
To know that you are part of a tribe that says that first, before all other things, you are wanted.
But that is a rare feeling and rare environment to find ourselves; in a tribe of people who get and accept us for just who we are.

But they are out there.
You just have to get out and find them.

Come on, wanderer!
Wander a bit further with me.

P.S. If you are diagnosed with persistent ass-holery (1), you have my condolences, and (2) no tribe has to accept an asshole as they are... they just don't.
Seek a cure and get better, don't expect them to change to accept the smell.